Sexual Snacking: The Little Joys Before Sex!

How to Give Yourself Quick Moments as a Couple

Do you take the time to nurture your everyday couple life? If balancing your social life, work, household obligations and love life is a headache, here are some tips that could help.

An emotional or sexual approach?

Signs of affection in a couple are of major importance for the well-being of the relationship. They are recognized by kisses, hugs, sweet words and even gestures as simple as being available, listening, and being interested in each other. We are talking about an emotional approach. On the other hand, the sexual approach in a relationship includes sexy looks, french kisses, sensual touches and seduction. All these sensual gestures can lead to creating quick and sexy moments as a couple. For example, taking the time to touch your partner sensually when you cook together or pass by each other, look enviously at your partner to show your desire, kiss more languidly instead of small kisses. Often, words are not necessary to clearly demonstrate one’s desire. You can simply include these small gestures in your everyday life in order to be able to build up fast moments as a couple. 

Adding sex on the schedule

You might mistakenly think that planning a romantic frolic with your partner might be strange, but this planning could help you escape the routine. It is normal for sexuality to fluctuate, that at some point, sexual desire is high and sometimes completely flat. If we add stress and fatigue, sexuality is often the sphere of a relationship that is put aside. So planning some time to get together with your partner could be very beneficial if you have a busy schedule. This moment must be suitable for both parties so that it is not seen as a task to be accomplished, but rather as a naughty appointment.

Work from home, an ally?

Yes, working from home could become your ally. When the children are at daycare or at school and you find yourself alone with your partner, each teleworking, it is possible to synchronize the lunch breaks to meet in the bedroom. If you’re tired of the bedroom, take advantage of the fact that you’re home alone to explore other places like the shower or perhaps the kitchen countertop. The temptation may awaken more easily elsewhere because the novelty aspect can make the whole thing much more exciting. If you don’t work from home, having sex before you go to work in the morning can also be an option, because after a day at work, you often come back tired and the temptation to have sex is not always there.

Sexual Foreplay

Sexuality is often perceived as having to end in penetration. But for many people, foreplay is the best part of it. More precisely, foreplay is supposed to be a moment, when you and your partner exchange tender embraces without purposely seeking an orgasm although it can be a finality in itself. Whether through oral sex or any other non-penetrative sexual activity, foreplay includes the 5 senses; touch, hearing, sight, taste and smell. In addition, foreplay is generally quicker than a sexually penetrative activity, so if you run out of time, practicing foreplay could provide you with a middle ground.

« Sexting » isn’t just for teens!

Sexting refers to sending sexual sayings through text messages. Writing to your partner about your desires can increase the excitement within the couple or simply help maintain the fire, especially if you are in a long-distance relationship. If you don’t know where to start, you can just tell your partner what you find attractive about him/her. That way, the exchange of sexts could allow you to have small quick moments with each other while being pleasant and spontaneous. 

Bath time?

If taking a bath with your partner seems to be too difficult in terms of time, taking a shower together can just as much be enjoyable. It’s fast and it gives you the opportunity to get sexually close with your partner and it’s also a perfect moment to relax together. The shower is already on your everyday schedule, so encouraging your partner to be part of it could stimulate the excitement and change your daily routine.

In short, it’s up to you to choose what works best for you both and what you feel comfortable with. All these simple gestures can help you create quick sexy moments and help maintain the love and sexual desire with your partner.

 

 

étudiante sexologie

Author for our sexcoupletherapy blog

 

 

Audrey Labelle

Studying in a Bachelor of Sexology

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

 

Étudiante au baccalauréat en sexologie. Elle écrit des articles pour le blogue du site sur la sexualité et les relations amoureuses. Student studying for a bachelor's in sexology. She write articles for our blog on the website concerning sexuality and relationships.