Author Archive for: Francois Renaud M.A

Equity vs. Equality in polyamorous relationships

Justice in polyamoury, but in what context? Society is becoming more open about the idea of polyamorous relationships, even though there is still quite a lot of polyamorophobia (a word I just invented). Therefore, I am getting more people in my office seeking help to negotiate the relationship contract. Every couple has some form of understanding about what they consider

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I want to be wanted!

The politics of sexual desire Everyone wants to be and feel desired by others, as well as loved. Specifically by their spouses, but sometimes other people. Most people don’t find themselves desirable unless someone or others agree with them about their level of desirability. It is even seen negatively to see oneself as desirable by our society. We perceive it as

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Share your fantasies with me my DARLING!

What gets you turned on during sex? If you consult a sex therapist psychotherapist, chances are you are going to get that question asked. It might seem intrusive, intimidating, uncomfortable to answer this to someone you have barely known for a couple of hours. A lot of the times, we aren’t quite sure what to answer or know what is

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Sex is Like Climbing a Mountain Top

Photo by Great Sex Requires Effort Nothing in life that is worth it comes easily. Sex might be natural, but it is not innate to humans…well not good sex anyways. We have to learn how to have sex by exploring ourselves and our partner to eventually become great lovers. When we have our first sexual encounters with a partner, it

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I Function Because my Partner is Dysfunctional

I Feel More Emotionally Mature Than my Partner In many instances in a relationship, we can feel that one of us is more emotionally mature than the other person. In couple’s therapy, we actually get that a lot. One of the partners seems more stable and has his s**t together while the other seems distraught and dysfunctional. This can last for

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